Small child

How to name children's intimate places?

I admit that my daughter surprised me. I did not expect a little over two years old to ask me what it is, "something that Winnie has in his ass" ... However, this moment came. And despite my inner amusement, I kept my face straight. And to the question what it is, I answered "pee." Is that right Honestly, I do not know…


Children watch the world and learn every minute. Also, they would seem at times when they are busy with something else, they record everything. Just like my daughter, when her peer during a break in the playground was peeing under the tree.

Specialists recommend responding to children as much as they can understand. That is why I answered "pee" to the question what it is. Then the questions were asked who else had a pee and here the calculations began.

Fortunately (for me) it ended with saying that the girls don't have "this thing" (quote from daughter). It was enough. Good for me Because before the next question is asked, I will have time to think about what to answer :)

Family intimate language

The topic of naming intimate places in children is also current in the forums. And what turns out? There is a clear conclusion on each side: we have a clear problem with intimate language.

On the one hand, it's too serious, somehow medically (at least it seems) when the words "member", "penis", "vagina", "vagina" or "vulva" are spoken. On the other hand it also happens "Too vulgar" "Not suitable for the ears of young children" and the sensitivity of adults (after all very individual), such as "pussy" or "prick."

The problem of course is not reserved only for contacts with the child. Many of us are afraid to say theoretically well-known words aloud, such as "clitoris", "vagina", using substitutes in sex talks or not saying them at all, silent.

For these reasons, it appears that substitutes have been made, often infantile words, which have "this troublesome" terminology somehow replace, soften. Their goal is to facilitate conversation on topics that seem difficult. Unfortunately, many of the terms we use to describe intimate places in children are far from the original meaning of the word or have nothing to do with it and are often incomprehensible to the wider public.

Important rules

  • not transfer your own shame related to sexuality to children,
  • don't panic
  • do not laugh,
  • answer the questions asked,
  • not to "morals", not to make them aware of
  • speaking of intimacy, sexuality, to remain natural, free,
  • avoid embarrassment or shame
  • avoid names that give rise to associations that may expose the child to misunderstanding in society (e.g. penis swab - the child may say to a friend from kindergarten: "your name is like a pee"),
  • it is also worth avoiding terms completely original, strange, not reminiscent of intimate parts, used only in a given home.

The most popular pee

It can be written that men have it easier. This is especially confirmed by the terminology used to determine boys' intimate places. The most popular are: