Since we are born, our temperament is marked by genes. Thus children since they are babies can have a tendency to be nervous, restless, hypnotic, irritable, skittish, calm, etc.
These tendencies can be shaped by the education given to the child and the environment around him. This is how the child's character develops. Therefore, temperament and character are not the same, being the sum of both what will give rise to the child's personality.
Children who are characterized as calm usually never cry and are relaxed. In addition, they are not altered by the changes that occur around them, they are not bothered by noise or light. They are children who usually sleep a lot. They do not mind doing the same activity for a long period of time.
Some parents are concerned about the "passivity" they show when moving. As there is no movement (they do not crawl or walk a lot), motor development tends to be later than is usual in other children.
Many times we identify the child as nervous or calm without qualifying. When we value the character of the child we have to do it realistically and without being carried away by subjective evaluations, since there are signs that can make us see a child as relaxed when it really is not.
Confusing these signals depends on the character of the adult next to the child. That is, if the parent is quite calm or overprotective, they are more likely to define the child's behavior as nervous or restless if the child does not stop moving and exploring, without thinking that the child may be going through a phase in which movement is key to developing your motor and cognitive abilities. For example, when the child is around 12 months.
On the other hand, that the child always obeys what his parents tell him without complaints or tantrums does not define him as calm. Many children obey out of fear of being rejected by their parents. This apparent calm and maturity hides his insecurity.
If you have a calm and relaxed child, we can follow some guidelines and tips:
- Learn to educate him without falling into overprotection since you will need to learn skills to be able to defend yourself in the future.
- It is also important to understand that even if the child seems docile and flexible, we should not ignore their limits since they need to be educated both with discipline and with love.
- It is important not to pay attention to him only when he cries. By doing so, he is unconsciously encouraged to complain.
- Even if the child does not ask for it it is key that parents talk and play a lot with the child. If it is not done, it will lack the necessary stimuli for its development.
- Parents must encourage your children to express their needs and opinions. They are taught that their opinion counts and to defend themselves.
- Adults should not pressure them with phrases such as, "how well he always behaves." The child will feel the obligation to always meet expectations.
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